第1篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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曾經(jīng)的我一度以為愛情是這世界上最美的東西,沒有雜念,沒有欺騙,所有日子都像落葉和風一樣微笑地住在睫毛下,安靜而熱烈。老師家長顯然是不同意這種青澀的感情,總覺得這太浪費青春,太難廢時間,才使得叛逆的我們更加放肆,一度迷茫地去追求所謂的愛。
而現(xiàn)在我信奉緣分,相信佛說的前世五百次回眸才能換來今生的相遇,我告訴自己,青春不轉(zhuǎn)彎,隨安而遇,我把這當做我聽話的表現(xiàn),因為我沒有浪費時間,浪費青春……
這樣并非貶低年少的感情,也沒有對愛情不恭的意思。相反,我支持年少的愛,她的純潔,清晰而模糊,清晰的是年少裸露的純潔感情,模糊的是來路不明的青澀感覺,我們都在前進,帶著心目中的愛情去追尋曖昧的感覺。
然而,在老師家長的恐嚇下,我承認我有些怕了。于是,我思索著關(guān)于我的愛情。字里行間露出我的膽小于懼怕,我只能說“未來的愛情”而不敢大聲張揚道“我要談戀愛!”
既然這樣,就一切隨安而遇吧!
“隨安而遇”我喜歡這個詞,沒有禁錮,沒有束縛,一切掙開捆綁,全部只有解放。這樣的感覺很愜意,或許這個詞就是對我心目中愛情的詮釋吧!
第2篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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魯豫演講稿:冷知識,熱愛情
在之前的超演舞臺上我做過兩次講演,都講的是跟愛情有關(guān)的話題,今天我還是想講一講跟愛情有關(guān)的話題,我盡可能的用一些數(shù)據(jù)盡可能從科學角度去分析一下這見鬼的愛情。
有美國的信息學家發(fā)表過這樣一個表格我們來看一下:每天全世界有三百萬情侶開始第一次約會。這意味著每天有三百萬嶄新的愛情開始發(fā)生了,所以我們心里可以有一些希望的火苗開始燃燒,你就想哪怕我找不到男朋友或者女朋友只要我等著死磕輪都能輪到我。下面我要用更多的數(shù)據(jù)把你這個希望的火苗給它澆滅,因為還有科學家告訴我們說愛情完全是一種生化反應(yīng),它是有期限的,可以延續(xù)平均是十八個月。這漫長的一生十八個月過去以后怎么辦,我告訴你還有科學家會告訴你愛情不僅是有期限的而且我們的基因就已經(jīng)決定了人類根本上可能是花心的、會是見異思遷的,還有什么,有可能像文濤那樣是重色輕友的。還有的科學數(shù)據(jù)告訴我們,我們這一生在最終碰到那個人之前,平均我說的是平均每個人至少會經(jīng)歷四次非常糟糕的約會,會經(jīng)歷兩次心碎,在你最終找到那個真愛之前平均每個人要談十二到十四甚至十六個男朋友或者女朋友,這相當于我們讀的那個童話故事里面說的在你最終親到那個王子或者公主之前你需要親很多很多個“青蛙”甚至“瘌蛤蟆”。
怎么辦?我們就徹底放棄愛情集體崩潰,我的做法就是讓數(shù)據(jù)去見鬼,哪怕你失戀三十三天,失戀三百三十三天,失戀三年,但是你想一想當一切過去之后留在你心里的是有一些關(guān)于愛情的其實挺美好的記憶,可能是片段、是個畫面、是個聲音、是一段音樂,你們肯定都還記得那個人第一次抓你的手他的那個手可能是冰涼的,你的手也是冰涼的,然后你們倆有一些微微的顫抖那感覺,你肯定記得那個人第一次吻你的時候他的嘴唇很溫潤的那個感覺,你肯定有一天會有那樣的經(jīng)歷就是你失戀之后你的心破碎之后你大半夜的發(fā)瘋一樣去爬什么香山或者跑到海邊然后沖著那個黑夜你就喊他的名字。那個畫面特別矯情但是每個人早晚有一天可能會做這樣的事兒,很多這樣關(guān)于愛的記憶會留在我們心里。
我一直有一個夢想就是有一天如果我碰到了一個特別愛的人,我要有勇氣說一段電影臺詞:almost for all , i’m just a girl ,standing in front of a boy ,asking him to love her. (其實我就是個女孩站在一個男孩的面前祈求他能夠愛我。)這段話不知道為什么每一次我看都有一種熱淚盈眶的感覺,我特別希望有一天我能夠特有勇氣的說這段話。在做這個演講之前我問過我的很多朋友我說愛對你們來說意味著什么,有人說愛情是個動詞有人說愛情始于欲望,但是最終超越欲望,我最喜歡有一個人的回答他說愛情是肌膚之親,愛情是一蔬一飯,愛情更是我們絕望生活的英雄夢想,這句話我要作為我的座右銘也獻給大家。
魯豫相關(guān)人物評價:
陳魯豫是中國為數(shù)不多的“會裝傻的主持人”,多年的訪談節(jié)目經(jīng)歷讓她擅長于面對面的傾聽與溝通,她可以做到,只要嘉賓愿意說話,她全程一聲不吭,讓嘉賓自由發(fā)揮。能克制表現(xiàn)欲,不去打攪被訪者,這樣的主持人,才是一個真正好的訪談主持人。
真人秀節(jié)目中,陳魯豫是一個平和的導(dǎo)師,她通常以鼓勵的方式引導(dǎo)學員進步。訪談節(jié)目中,陳魯豫也是一位非常愿意欣賞對方的主持人。而在公司管理中,陳魯豫很嚴格,但“并不嚴厲”。
第3篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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論愛情中英互譯演講稿
舞臺上的愛情生活比生活中的愛情要美好得多。因為在舞臺上,愛情只是喜劇和悲劇的素材,而在人生中,愛情卻常常招來不幸。它有時象那位誘惑人的魔女(1),有時又象那位復(fù)仇的女神(2)。
you may observe, that amongst all the great and worthy persons (whereof the memory remaineth, either ancient or recent) there is not one, that hath been transported to the mad degree of love: which shows that great spirits, and great business, do keep out this weak passion. you must e_cept, nevertheless, marcus antonius, the half partner of the empire of rome, and appius claudius, the decemvir and lawgiver; whereof the former was indeed a voluptuous man, and inordinate; but the latter was an austere and wise man: and therefore it seems (though rarely) that love can find entrance, not only into an open heart, but also into a heart well fortified, if watch be not well kept.
你可以看到,一切真正偉大的人物(無論是古人、今人,只要是其英名永銘于人類記憶中的),沒有一個是因愛情而發(fā)狂的人。因為偉大的事業(yè)只有羅馬的安東尼和克勞底亞是例外(3)。前者本性就好色荒淫,然而后者卻是嚴肅多謀的人。這說明愛情不僅會占領(lǐng)開曠坦闊的胸懷,有時也能闖入壁壘森嚴的心靈----假如手御不嚴的話。
it is a poor saying of epicurus, satis magnum alter alteri theatrum sumus; as if man, made for the contemplation of heaven, and all noble objects, should do nothing but kneel before a little idol, and make himself a subject, though not of the mouth (as beasts are), yet of the eye; which was given him for higher purposes.
埃辟克拉斯(4)曾說過一句笨話:“人生不過是一座大戲臺?!彼坪醣緫?yīng)努力追求高尚事業(yè)的人類,卻只應(yīng)象玩偶般地逢場作戲。雖然愛情的奴隸并不同于那班只顧吃喝的禽獸,但畢竟也只是眼目色相的奴隸,而上帝賜人以眼睛本來是有更高尚的用途的。
it is a strange thing, to note the e_cess of this passion, and how it braves the nature, and value of things, by this; that the speaking in a perpetual hyperbole, is comely in nothing but in love. neither is it merely in the phrase; for whereas it hath been well said, that the arch-flatterer, with whom all the petty flatterers have intelligence, is a man’s self; certainly the lover is more. for there was never proud man thought so absurdly well of himself, as the lover doth of the person loved; and therefore it was well said, that it is impossible to love, and to be wise. neither doth this weakness appear to others only, and not to the party loved; but to the loved most of all, e_cept the love be reciproque. for it is a true rule, that love is ever rewarded, either with the reciproque, or with an inward and secret contempt.
過度的愛情追求,必然會降低人本身的價值。例如,只有在愛情中,才總是需要那種浮夸陷媚的.詞令。而在其他場合,同樣的詞令只能招人恥笑。古人有一句名言:“最大的奉承,人總是留給自己的。”----只有對情人的奉承要算例外。因為甚至最驕傲的人,也甘愿在情人面前自輕自賤。所以古人說得好:“就是神在愛情中也難保持聰明?!鼻槿说倪@種弱點不僅在外人眼中是明顯的,就是在被追求者的眼中也會很明顯----除非她(他)也在追求他(她)。所以,愛情的代價就是如此,不能得到回愛,就會得到一種深藏于心的輕蔑,這是一條永真的定律。
by how much the more, men ought to beware of this passion, which loseth not only other things, but itself! as for the other losses, the poet’s relation doth well figure them: that he that preferred helena, quitted the gifts of juno and pallas. for whosoever esteemeth too much of amorous affection, quitteth both riches and wisdom.
由此可見,人們應(yīng)當十分警惕這種感情。因為它不但會使人喪失其他,而且可以使人喪失自己本身。甚至其他方面的損失,古詩人早告訴我們,那追求海倫的人,是放棄了財富和智慧的(5)。
this passion hath his floods, in very times of weakness; which are great prosperity, and great adversity; though this latter hath been less observed: both which times kindle love, and make it more fervent, and therefore show it to be the child of folly. they do best, who if they cannot but admit love, yet make it keep quarters; and sever it wholly from their serious affairs, and actions, of life; for if it check once with business, it troubleth men’s fortunes, and maketh men, that they can no ways be true to their own ends.
由此可見,人們應(yīng)當十分警惕這種感情。因為它不但會使人喪失其他,而且可以使人喪失自己本身。甚至其他方面的損失,古詩人早告訴我們,那追求海倫的人,是放棄了財富和智慧的(5)。
第4篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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if i speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, i am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, i am nothing. if i give all i possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, i gain nothing.
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
love never fails. but where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. for we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. when i was a child, i talked like a child, i thought like a child, i reasoned like a child. when i became a man, i put childish ways behind me. now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. now i know in part; then i shall know fully, even as i am fully known. and now these three remain: faith, hope and love. but the greatest of these is love.
it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
a sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
it's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
it takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. don't go for looks; they can deceive. don't go for wealth, even that fades away. go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want
to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
always put yourself in the other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
a careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.
the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
there was once a guy who suffered from cancer, a cancer that can?ˉt be cured. he was 18 years old and he could die anytime. all his life, he was stuck in his house being taken cared by his mother. he never went outside but he was sick of staying home and wanted to go out for once. so he asked his mother and she gave him permission.
he walked down his block and found a lot of stores. he passed a cd store and looked through the front door for a second as he walked. he stopped and went back to look into the store. he saw a beautiful girl about his age and he knew it was love at first sight. he opened the door and walked in, not looking at anything else but her. he walked closer and closer until he was finally at the front desk where she sat.
she looked up and asked, 'can i help you?'
she smiled and he thought it was the most beautiful smile he has ever seen before and wanted to kiss her right there.
he said, 'uh... yeah... umm... i would like to buy a cd.'
he picked one out and gave her money for it.
'would you like me to wrap it for you?' she asked, smiling her cute smile again.
he nodded and she went to the back. she came back with the wrapped cd and gave it to him. he took it and walked out of the store.
he went home and from then on, he went to that store every day and bought a cd, and she wrapped it for him. he took the cd home and put it in his closet. he was still too shy to ask her out and he really wanted to but he couldn?ˉt. his mother found out about this and told him to just ask her. so the ne_t day, he took all his courage and went to the store as usual. he bought a cd like he did every day and once again she went to the back of the store and came back with it wrapped. he took it and when she wasn?ˉt looking, he left his phone number on the desk and ran out...
rrrrring!!!
one day the phone rang, and the mother picked it up and said, 'hello?'
it was the girl!!! the mother started to cry and said, 'you don?ˉt know? he passed away yesterday...'
the line was quiet e_cept for the cries of the boy?ˉs mother. later in the day, the mother went into the boy?ˉs room because she wanted to remember him. she thought she would start by looking at his clothes. so she opened the closet.
she was face to face with piles and piles and piles of unopened cds. she was surprised to find all these cds and she picked one up and sat down on the bed and she started to open one. inside, there was a cd and as she took it out of the wrapper, out fell a piece of paper. the mother picked it up and started to read it. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
the mother was deeply moved and opened another cd...
again there was a piece of paper. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
love is... when you?ˉve had a huge fight but then decide to put aside your egos, hold hands and say, 'i love you.'
關(guān)于愛情的英文演講稿
if i speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, i am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, i am nothing. if i give all i possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, i gain nothing.
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
love never fails. but where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. for we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. when i was a child, i talked like a child, i thought like a child, i reasoned like a child. when i became a man, i put childish ways behind me. now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. now i know in part; then i shall know fully, even as i am fully known. and now these three remain: faith, hope and love. but the greatest of these is love.
it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
a sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
it's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
it takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. don't go for looks; they can deceive. don't go for wealth, even that fades away. go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want
to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
always put yourself in the other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
a careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.
the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
there was once a guy who suffered from cancer, a cancer that can?ˉt be cured. he was 18 years old and he could die anytime. all his life, he was stuck in his house being taken cared by his mother. he never went outside but he was sick of staying home and wanted to go out for once. so he asked his mother and she gave him permission.
he walked down his block and found a lot of stores. he passed a cd store and looked through the front door for a second as he walked. he stopped and went back to look into the store. he saw a beautiful girl about his age and he knew it was love at first sight. he opened the door and walked in, not looking at anything else but her. he walked closer and closer until he was finally at the front desk where she sat.
she looked up and asked, 'can i help you?'
she smiled and he thought it was the most beautiful smile he has ever seen before and wanted to kiss her right there.
he said, 'uh... yeah... umm... i would like to buy a cd.'
he picked one out and gave her money for it.
'would you like me to wrap it for you?' she asked, smiling her cute smile again.
he nodded and she went to the back. she came back with the wrapped cd and gave it to him. he took it and walked out of the store.
he went home and from then on, he went to that store every day and bought a cd, and she wrapped it for him. he took the cd home and put it in his closet. he was still too shy to ask her out and he really wanted to but he couldn?ˉt. his mother found out about this and told him to just ask her. so the ne_t day, he took all his courage and went to the store as usual. he bought a cd like he did every day and once again she went to the back of the store and came back with it wrapped. he took it and when she wasn?ˉt looking, he left his phone number on the desk and ran out...
one day the phone rang, and the mother picked it up and said, 'hello?'
it was the girl!!! the mother started to cry and said, 'you don?ˉt know? he passed away yesterday...'
the line was quiet e_cept for the cries of the boy?ˉs mother. later in the day, the mother went into the boy?ˉs room because she wanted to remember him. she thought she would start by looking at his clothes. so she opened the closet.
she was face to face with piles and piles and piles of unopened cds. she was surprised to find all these cds and she picked one up and sat down on the bed and she started to open one. inside, there was a cd and as she took it out of the wrapper, out fell a piece of paper. the mother picked it up and started to read it. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
the mother was deeply moved and opened another cd...
again there was a piece of paper. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
love is... when you?ˉve had a huge fight but then decide to put aside your egos, hold hands and say, 'i love you.'
站在愛情的邊上看愛情(演講稿)
愛情像sars一樣,飛快地傳染著我們這些還背著書包的小孩。喧囂的街頭,音樂依然清晰。一邊是《情人》,一邊是《我們的愛》。
在這個瞬息即變的年代,愛如潮水,泛濫!打開電視,滿熒屏的肥皂泡沫偶像劇,輪番上陣。在青春小說里,愛情是永遠說不完,磨不破的話題。然而,于電視機前,書桌前,到處都充斥著眼淚的痕跡,哎,總有人不小心被愛情撞了一下腰!“閃電式”的愛情是最頻繁上演的劇目。一個男孩今天才為一個女孩唱著《我心永恒》,明天又手拿玫瑰深情地為另一個女孩吟詩。這煙火般的愛,這流星似的情,轉(zhuǎn)瞬即逝,灰飛煙滅,沒有誰會去悼念昨天的那段情,沒有誰會轉(zhuǎn)身去看看,那燈火欄柵處,是否還有人為此默默等待,因為下一站,還有愛情!
有“馬拉松”式的愛情嗎?當然,而且也不在少數(shù)。兩個人從認識到牽手,奔跑著,苦心經(jīng)營,可到了畢業(yè)那天,兩人同時傷心,十指相扣的手,說好死也不放開的,終于,默默地放開了,盡管不愿意,但還是不得不唱著《好心分手》。
我說六月是分手的高峰期,而偏偏有人喜歡在這個時間牽手,共同兩個月的愛情!甚至不惜犧牲友情,親情。難道真的只在乎曾經(jīng)擁有嗎?我不懂,不明白這是為什么。我只知道,如果愛了,就要深愛!很簡單的愛,沒有包袱!
我們這個年紀好像總是很缺氧。等不到春天的來臨,不會發(fā)芽,抽綠,硬是在寒冬拔苗助長,于是,青澀的愛情開始衰敗,慢慢凋零,死去……
每年的情人節(jié),總有一些人孤零零地飄著,在深夜里買醉,梟雄般悲愴地佇立在衰草斜陽中。往日被愛情滋潤著的微笑早已被夜卷進無邊黑暗中。這都是愛情惹的禍!驀然回首,一片荒涼,除了心傷,別無他物!事實上,誰無青春兩三事,人不風流枉少年嘛!在我們的心里,都有一種關(guān)于青春時的蒙朧情感。說出口了,是些青澀懵懂的愛戀,像捅破了的紙窗戶,里外透風,因此兩人都會著涼;不說出口,將其掩埋,深深掩埋在心里,這或許是一種方式吧!因為我們還沒有把握給予對方幸福!也許有一天,你有足夠的勇氣與能力時,你便能捉住幸福的尾巴,而那時,你如果愛了,請深愛?。?!
第5篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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大學生愛情觀演講稿篇
各位評委、同學們:
大家好!
狂天,我想跟大家談一個平凡而又永恒的話題,那就是愛情。愛情,是人類歷史上一個恒古不變的主題。梁山伯與祝英臺、羅密歐與朱麗葉這些千古絕唱多少年來一直令世人唏噓不已。現(xiàn)在的大學校園愛情早已不是一個禁忌的話題,恐怕是大學宿舍里“臥談”最多的內(nèi)容。所以,今天,我演講的題目是:初戀,想要問你敢不敢。
某一天,當你坐在午后三點的咖啡屋里,陽光穿過落地玻璃窗,打在你的臉上,有點刺眼,你微微地半瞇著眼睛,抬頭看到了光線里那一段初戀時光,臉上是否浮現(xiàn)出回憶的微笑,心里是否已感到滿足。
而我們是否有曾經(jīng)聽過或自己說過“曾經(jīng)有一份真摯的感情在我的手中,我卻不知如何珍惜,但等我失去后才后悔莫及。”這都是多么的令人感想萬千。為此,我們又該如何正確地對待戀情?
戀愛是人生必經(jīng)的階段,我們不要一味地去拒絕她,不要過于的否定她,也不要太過于強求她?;蛟S中學階段我們的確還不適于戀愛,而如今我們已走出了中學時代,進入了大學,關(guān)鍵在于我們自己的正確態(tài)度,在于這件事當中我們隊它的認識和如何地做出選擇取向。
馬克思說:“真正的愛情是表現(xiàn)戀人對他的偶像采取含蓄、謙恭甚至羞澀的態(tài)度,而絕不是表現(xiàn)在隨意流露熱情的過早的親呢。”瓦西列夫在他的《情愛論》中說:“愛情作為男女關(guān)系上的一種特殊的審美感而發(fā)展起來的,愛情創(chuàng)造了美,使人對美的領(lǐng)悟能力敏銳起來,促進對世界的藝術(shù)化認識。”蘇霍姆林斯基說:“真正的愛情,這意味著不僅是欣賞美,而且要培植美,創(chuàng)造美。”人本主義心理學家卡爾·羅杰斯說:“愛是深深的理解和接受。”
戀愛需要百分百的真誠和投入。愛情就像是一場奇遇,如果現(xiàn)在在你身邊的人不能讓你有奇遇的感覺,那說明你還需要等待,這時不如大方一點離開,不要耽誤了人家。
每個人心中都有一扇門,是初戀?初吻?兩小無猜的情節(jié)?還是難忘的回憶......
在那些明媚的青春里,我們的初戀心情,不管是靜謐純凈,還是瘋狂復(fù)雜,都不是以能不能來衡量,而是敢不敢!
我的演講完畢,謝謝大家!
大學生愛情觀演講稿篇范文
大家好,下面就由我來為大家以大學生戀愛觀為主題發(fā)表我的演講。
大家來上大學應(yīng)該都有同樣的兩個目的,也不外乎是學習到專業(yè)的知識和體驗自由生活。當然,這里所說的生活指的一定就不是物質(zhì)文化生活,而是精神文化生活,我們要利用大學這幾年間來學會該怎么去生活。在早期的蘇聯(lián)電影《列寧在1918》中瓦希里對妻子說的一句話那樣:“牛奶會有的,面包會有的,一切都會有的……”在這里,牛奶便是我們生活的營養(yǎng)滋潤,而面包則指的是我們的學習、事業(yè)。愛情在很多人的心目中是偉大的、圣潔的,她是僅存在思維高尚面的精神產(chǎn)物,她是很多人的精神寄托,她能讓一對空虛的心靈變得充實。所以,愛情是我們享受大學精神文化生活中必不可少的一部分。
到現(xiàn)在,我們大多數(shù)人還能在學校讀書的時間,也基本上就只剩下這幾年了。一旦我們走進了社會,我們就要去接受社會里很多我們想象不到的現(xiàn)實面,充滿了誘惑和險惡的事實會抨擊著我們的心靈和錢包。在這時候有誰還會去認真考慮站在自己面前的異性到底對自己是真心的愛,還是為了繼續(xù)抨擊我們的...心靈和錢包呢?在這功利化的社會中尋覓一份屬于自己的真愛,那談何容易!既然這樣,那我們何不在大學生活里學有余力的情況下來一場純潔無暇的戀愛呢?大學生重在學習,學習知識、學習生活。暫時不會被這功利化的社會所污染,與金錢利益隔絕了的愛情是最純潔的。我相信大多數(shù)人在選擇戀人時都更希望能找到能與自己相守一生的人,這樣的話,大學生活中一段純潔無陰謀的邂逅就變得尤為重要了。
說到大學生重在學習,不少人都能想到的是:當學習與愛情相沖突時,該怎么辦?這確實是個很現(xiàn)實的問題。有的同學一接觸戀愛就變得相當不理智了,就和老師說的那樣,戀愛中的男女智商都是零,根本就沒辦法學習了。所以在這些同學眼中,學習還是比戀愛重要,但他們的說法是偏激的,學習與戀愛真的就那么相抵觸嗎?但是我認為,在大學生活中,學習不是孤立的,戀愛當然也要面對。與其為了不讓自己沉迷于戀愛墮落不起而選擇放棄面對,不如與自己的伴侶換個方式交流、相處,互相幫助、互相激勵、共同上進。愛她就要為她好,避殺蟲砍腳趾的辦法明顯不是一個好的選擇,把握好正確的戀愛方式也是能促進學業(yè)、事業(yè)的,這難道不是一個兩全其美的選擇嗎?
還有一個值得討論的話題,就是我們應(yīng)該怎么去面對戀愛中產(chǎn)生的消費。大家都會希望戀愛能在浪漫中度過,999朵玫瑰代表長長久久,在燭光點綴的夜晚,單膝跪地為對方獻上閃亮鉆戒,博得紅顏會心一笑。這種浪漫不是不行,但這畢竟不是每個人都能受得起的,浪漫不一定要靠金錢去堆筑。浪漫是什么?也許就是一句話,一個眼神,一個微笑或是一段歲月!也許...什么也不是?浪漫只是愛情生活的點綴,天天制造浪漫,當你累得受不了時,愛情也就結(jié)束了!
很高興在這里發(fā)表我自己的觀點,但是戀愛觀始終是因人而異的。每個人都有自己的路要走,只要自己覺得有價值的事,去做就是了。希望大家都能有個美好的大學生活,謝謝大家!
愛情主題班會演講稿
我們小時候,對愛情一知半解,但父母要求我們不要早戀,打算讓我們考入大學之后,才允許我們自由戀愛。所以,我相信咱們班里會有一部分人還沒有談過戀愛。當然,并不是說他們以前沒有機會談戀愛,也許會有人曾經(jīng)被追過,只不過因為一些原因沒有成功而已。在此,我想說:談一場戀愛吧,不求轟轟烈烈,只為了讓我們老了之后,能躺在搖椅上,回味一下愛情的甜蜜。不要在人生的大好年華時留下一個哪怕你認為很小的遺憾。
以前我問過一些正在上班的哥哥,你最懷念的時間是神魔時候?絕大部分人回答是大學。因為大學時的戀愛是無憂無慮的,沒有家人的干預(yù),沒有學校的拘束,老師和同學也不會像初中、高中時那樣帶著有色眼鏡看待你。在大學里,談戀愛是完全沒有顧慮的。
也許你會覺得以后的時間還有很多,而大學正是積累知識財富的時候,而且,覺得每天能安排的時間還不多,怎么能將時間浪費在談戀愛上面呢。我不否認你說的話。但我還是要糾正一下。首先呢,談戀愛并不會影響你學習,它僅僅利用你的閑暇時間,并且,有可能會提高你的學習能力,甚至社交能力。畢竟,當你和你男(女)朋友在外參加聚會時,你有近距離聆聽他們交談的機會。其次,有一句至理名言你們都知道---活到老,學到老。你能用你的一生去學習,但是,你敢說:你能用你的一輩子都去談戀愛嗎
以上說的都是沒過戀愛經(jīng)歷的,接下來談一談有過戀愛經(jīng)歷的。
正在熱戀中的人應(yīng)該能體味到愛情的甜蜜,每天被相約而至,相伴而行,形影不離的美滋潤著。分享著彼此的快樂,吐訴著心中的苦悶,體味著人生的幸福。幸福感油然而生,尤其是在你生病時,你的那個他每天陪伴在你身邊。與單身自己照顧自己相比,能夠有個人一直在關(guān)注你照顧你無疑是件幸福的事。
我覺得戀愛是神圣的。你可以多情但不能濫情,因為那不僅是對愛情的玷污,也是對你自身的不負責。它不只是欺騙別人,也是欺騙自己。而且戀愛次數(shù)太多并不能成為你吹噓的本錢,因為愛情在精不在多。談一場你真正喜歡的你認真的戀愛,你才能感受到戀愛時的美妙,才能感受到生活的真實性。
珍惜吧,大學時光也會轉(zhuǎn)眼消逝。趁著如今年少,緊抓住戀愛腳步,去戀愛吧。
第6篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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古代有位美女,嫁給了一個矮矬窮,她整天站在窗邊以淚洗面。終于有一天,她與從樓下經(jīng)過的一個高富帥一見鐘情。她認為這才是她的愛情,她要擺脫舊的婚姻的枷鎖,于是她一狠心,毒死了自己的丈夫。如果此事發(fā)生在今天她大可不必死,只需找我?guī)退蛞粋€離婚訴訟即可,武大郎也不用死了,興許他還能拿到一筆可觀的分手費。潘金蓮為什么要殺死武大郎,因為她認為她和武大郎之間已經(jīng)不存在愛情了,而她和武大郎之間的婚姻成了她追求新的愛情的絆腳石。30多年前,我削尖了腦袋考入北大,研究法律,研究哲學,但至今我一直解不開一個謎。那就是愛情到底是個什么東東,婚姻又是個什么西西,而這個東東和西西之間又存在著什么南南北北的關(guān)系。我的人生經(jīng)歷和我的直覺告訴我,愛情其實是我們每一個人心中的一種信仰,一種向往,一種對真善美的追求,信則有,不信則無。什么海枯石爛,什么白頭到老,那不過是詩人的一種浪漫情懷和我們每一個人的自欺欺人。正所謂秀恩愛死得快,古往今來多少鉆石愛情,到頭來都變成一盆狗血,一地雞毛。有時夫妻之間,愛與不愛的轉(zhuǎn)換速度之快,讓我和我的小伙伴們都驚呆了。那婚姻是什么,婚姻其實就是一種契約。談戀愛說穿了就像是合同談判,初吻是一種合作的意向,交換定情物更像是一種合同定金,結(jié)婚登記其實就是合同簽訂,入洞房就是合同的旅行,離婚那是合同的解除。婚姻最大的敵人是什么,那是欲望。人類的欲望與生俱來,無窮無盡,那么怎么辦,不停的去離婚?肯定不行。因此我們必須需要一個東西,一種精神層面的東西來控制我們的欲望。那這個東西,就是誠信和契約精神。其實婚姻很簡單,婚姻就是喂馬劈柴,就是關(guān)心糧食和蔬菜,就是有一所房子,面朝大海,春暖花開。海子其實用他的生命為我們描繪了一幅非常溫馨的真實的.婚姻的畫面。海子是瘋癲的,他捧著兩本書《圣經(jīng)》和《瓦爾登湖》到長城的起點去尋找愛情。而海子又是幸福的,當他的身軀躺在長城起點的這篇土地上,當他的頭顱枕在那冰冷的鐵軌上的那一刻,我相信海子,他找到了愛情。
婚姻與愛情的
第7篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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尊敬的老師同學們:
大家下午好,
關(guān)于愛情,自古以來,便有無數(shù)人按照自身對它的理解,給它下了無數(shù)的定義。詩人說,愛情如同美酒一般,初戀時青澀的青稞酒,熱戀時熾熱的龍舌蘭,而相守則是回味無窮的醇美紅酒。
社會學家說:愛情是基于一定的社會基礎(chǔ)和共同的生活理想,在彼此內(nèi)心形成的相互傾慕,并渴望成為對方終身伴侶的一種強烈、純真、專一的感情。
我說:真正的愛是相互的包容,理解,是彼此身心的協(xié)調(diào),和諧,真正的愛從來都不是單純的甜蜜,而是百味陳雜的,是從雙方由心產(chǎn)生的一種對對方的關(guān)心,信任,愿意把所有號=好的,壞的東西都與他分享。
愛情是簡單的,簡單到,它只是一種感覺,愛情又是困難的,困難到,它需要經(jīng)歷:認識,了解,追求,熱戀,磨合,相愛六個過程,這個過程需要走很長的路,有時候走著走著身邊的人就換了,所以愛情又是困難的。
認識:愛情需要緣分,世界上有那么多人,為什么你們就能相遇呢?相遇不是擦肩而過而是認識了彼此呢?因為人的交際圈有限,你所認識的人,是否就有適合你的呢?就有一個是你的真愛呢?愛情通常需要等待,等待一個真正合適的人出現(xiàn)在你生命中,所以,一旦發(fā)現(xiàn)了,就勇敢地去認識她吧!
了解:你已經(jīng)對她有了好感,被她深深吸引,那么是否迫不及待地就開始追求了呢?不,你還需要經(jīng)歷一個階段——了解。一個人對另一個人的認識和判斷,并不是一下子就能做到的。如果,對你心儀的她缺乏了解,就草率地開始追求,即使成功,也給雙方的未來埋下了隱患,因為你或許喜歡的只是她身上某個瞬間散發(fā)出的優(yōu)點,卻不了解她的缺點你是否也能包容。你需要在你開始追求前,與她的點滴相處中,了解你們是否適合繼續(xù)交往,所以,我認為一見鐘情是賭,賭自己的幸福!
追求:追求是被追求者考察追求者的階段,也是追求者考驗自己的過程。追求的過程有幸福與歡樂,因為你可以不計回報地對喜歡的人好,你因為能幫助她解決困難,得到她的一句謝謝而開心半天。追求的過程也有痛苦,當對方告訴你,你不是她的心儀對象,當你的追求方法不當,引起她的厭煩,當她不確定自己的感情,對你若即若離時。追求一個人,也是對自己的考驗,你是否是真的喜歡她呢?還是想簡單開始一段戀情,打發(fā)寂寞?你是否能經(jīng)受得起她的考驗?zāi)?你是否足夠長情,不會變心呢?你若想好了,那就勇敢地去接受來自她和自己的考驗吧!
熱戀:當愛情進入了熱戀期,兩個人仿佛融合在一起了,一刻也不愿分離,每一分鐘都在想著她,她身上仿佛全是優(yōu)點。你精心打扮,一天換掉十幾件衣服。和她在一起的時候,你臉上總是帶著笑容。每一天都是新鮮的,在一起的時間總是過得特別地快,每晚依依不舍的送她回家,每晚幸福滿足地對她說一聲晚安。熱戀期是戀愛中最美好的時期,你就是我的炫邁口香糖,怎么嚼都停不下來。
磨合:熱度總有一天會冷卻下來,穩(wěn)定的相戀狀態(tài)將面臨磨合期,這個過程中,是對戀人們的真正考驗期??朔ズ掀?,才是從喜歡升華到了愛情。當從熱戀中醒來,發(fā)現(xiàn)原來我們是完全獨立的個體,意識到對方也不是完美無缺的。我們會開始爭吵,冷戰(zhàn),因為激情褪去,現(xiàn)實涌來,很多人沒有勇氣去面對平淡,而選擇了放棄。磨合期是一個漫長的過程,戀愛雙方必須懂得寬容,理解對方,互相鼓勵著闖過這一關(guān),度過這一關(guān)的戀人們將由單純的吸引升華為知己狀態(tài),經(jīng)歷了風雨,經(jīng)歷了磨合,達到心靈協(xié)調(diào)的狀態(tài)。
怎么度過磨合期呢?戀愛雙方應(yīng)該多些真心的交流,了解彼此的需求,給彼此更多的自由,信任。改變單調(diào)的生活方式,創(chuàng)造一些小驚喜。
相愛:度過了磨合期的戀人們,已經(jīng)可以很協(xié)調(diào)地處理好愛情與友情,學業(yè),私事的關(guān)系了,懂得了彼此包容,彼此已經(jīng)非常了解,即使有了矛盾,總會有一方主動讓步,另一方懂得順坡下驢,沖突減少了,愛情將升華到了親情階段,你們已經(jīng)很難再分開了,因為你們已經(jīng)是親人了。
戀愛中的建議:你們在交往中可能會遇到很多問題:爭吵,猜疑,冷戰(zhàn),誘惑,但是只要學會處理這些問題,堅持真心地交流,學會包容對方,相互信任,尊重,付出。用八分的力氣去愛對方,留下兩分來愛自己,以免失去自我,或覺得委屈。
不要害怕去愛,珍惜你的她,珍惜你們的緣!
我的演講到此結(jié)束,謝謝大家!
第8篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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大家好,我來自輪機3班。我今天演講的題目是愛情。
不知道大家有沒有發(fā)現(xiàn)自從我們上了大學以后,有相當多的一部分人都在鼓勵我們談戀愛。在離開家的那一刻我們的父母鼓勵我們談戀愛;在迎新晚會上我們的院長鼓勵我們談戀愛;在我們第一節(jié)課上我們的科任老師也鼓勵我們談戀愛!這時,我詫異了。高中時所有人都反對我們談戀愛而現(xiàn)在所有的人都鼓勵我們談戀愛。我真想知道是我瘋了還是世界瘋了。愛這東西什么時候可以控制發(fā)生的時間了。這個世界的發(fā)展真讓我恐慌!所以我今天想談一談關(guān)于愛情的話題。
首先我們肯定得問,到底什么是愛情?有的人說愛情是一個圍城。在圍城外面的人幻想著它有多美好,一心想進去。里面人的卻迫切地想出來!還有的人說,愛情是人與人之間的強烈的依戀、親近、向往,以及無私專一并且無所不盡其心的情感。而科學家說,愛情是一種生理反應(yīng),有化學物質(zhì)作用。當你與異性相處時,你的大腦會分析你們的dna,按一定原則,確定你對ta的好感。據(jù)說原則是你們基因的相似度越小越好,但,如果兩人相處久了,這種好感就會被你的大腦選擇性忽略。認識久了,就沒愛情了嗎?也不是,如果你對某人很好,而ta很快樂。此時身體會分泌內(nèi)啡肽。這種物質(zhì)能產(chǎn)生快樂,抑制痛苦。隨著交往的繼續(xù),體內(nèi)會分泌多巴胺和血清胺。多巴胺會提高人的興奮水平,產(chǎn)生愉悅感。它是去甲腎上腺素的前提,說白了它多,腎上腺素就多,你就越興奮。所以段譽見了王語嫣就忘乎所以,胡言亂語。血清胺是一種中間物質(zhì),它最終也會使人體興奮,愉悅。但它更持久,因為有一系列的生化反應(yīng)后才會起作用。它們加上內(nèi)啡肽所產(chǎn)生的一系列感覺就是愛情。
我相信大部分的人都更傾向于第二種說,因為人們都更喜歡喜歡美好的事物。并且都更愿相信美好。哪怕那只是一個美麗的夢,人們也不愿醒來。其實我并不懂愛情。我也不能武斷的說到底那一種能稱之為愛情。我只會憑最簡單的方法去辨別愛情,那就是感覺。
一千多年前,蘇格拉底的徒弟問蘇格拉底:“什么是戀愛?”蘇格拉底帶他來到一片麥田說:“你在這片麥田里走一遍,其間不許往回走,并在其中摘下最大的一個麥穗?!蹦莻€徒弟做完后,一個麥穗也沒摘來,蘇格拉底告訴他這就是戀愛。戀愛對象無所謂最好的,只有最適合的。不要總?cè)プ分鹚^的最好而錯過了最適合你的那一個。
還有,愛情它理應(yīng)需要距離。俗話說得好,距離產(chǎn)生美。在非洲有一種豪豬,身上的毛硬而尖。天氣寒冷的時候,它們就聚在一起互相靠身體取暖。但是當它們靠近時,身上的毛尖會刺痛對方使它們立刻分開,分開后因為寒冷它們又聚在一起,聚在一起因為痛又分開,這樣反復(fù)數(shù)次,最后它們終于找到了彼此間的最佳距離——在最輕的疼痛下得到最大的溫暖。其實,愛情也像豪豬一樣,豪豬的距離其實也就是愛情的距離。
最后我想說每個人的愛情都是一部電影,自己是這部電影的主角兼導(dǎo)演,自己詮釋的這部電影到底是藝術(shù)片?悲情片?無聲片?商業(yè)片?災(zāi)難片還是色情片?都取決于自己對待人生的態(tài)度!謝謝
第9篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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尊敬的老師們,親愛的同學們:
大家好!
“乒乓球,我愛你,就像老鼠愛大米”,咦,是誰在小聲的唱歌啦?原來是媽媽在陪我去實驗小學打乒乓球的路上,我高興得情不自禁的哼起了我原創(chuàng)的“乒乓球”之歌。
媽媽騎著電動車,輕車熟路地拐了幾個彎后來到了實驗小學的后操場,在那兒已經(jīng)等了許久的吳一鳴立刻跑上前來迫不及待道:“快點來,等了你那么久吶!”說完便把我拉到乒乓球桌邊。
“要不一一今天來玩三點的?”,聽了這話,吳一鳴立刻擺好了迎戰(zhàn)的姿勢,一副勝券在握的樣子。
我也不甘示弱,左腿在前,右腿在后,擺好工字步,拿起乒乓球拍一挑,便開始了一場熱火朝天的乒乓球大賽。
來來回回打了十幾個回合,仍不分勝負,我有些沉不住氣了,準備用球拍一抽,一球了結(jié)他算了!正好他發(fā)個高球來了,我見此機會,趁火打鐵,把拍一壓,把球抽了過去!
“哎呦”,吳一鳴見我這樣,知道我要抽,不禁叫了起來,球以迅雷不及掩耳之勢來到了他面前,誰知吳一鳴也是乒乓球的慣手,急忙退后幾步,把手放下一點,球便被他接住了,向我面前直打而來,而我卻正以為吳一鳴接不住球呢,已經(jīng)在得意洋洋了,一看球打到了我桌上,我趕忙去接,可惜卻接不到了,我后悔莫及,心中暗暗警惕自己:下一次不要再輕敵啦!
這一次輪到媽媽和我對打,正所謂“吃一塹,長一智”有了上次的經(jīng)驗,這一次我可警惕多了。
媽媽可是“耍人能手”,正所謂耍人,就是東打一下西打一下,變化無常,所以媽媽比吳一鳴更加難以對付,只見媽媽發(fā)球時,用球拍把球往前一“送”,球便飛快的來到了我跟前,我也一“送”,互相“送”了幾個來回,媽媽便不送啦,開始玩“旋”的啦,媽媽把球拍一旋,球打到我這兒時,突然原本去左邊的球去了右邊,要不是我反應(yīng)快,險些吃了大虧。媽媽一計不成,又生一計,開啟了他的“耍人模式”,媽媽東也打一下,西也打一下,西又打一下,讓人琢磨不透她,下一次球又會發(fā)到哪邊,并且還得時刻小心媽媽的旋球,唉!這個媽媽打起乒乓球來,真是讓人不“省心”啊!
不過,就是因為有這樣“詭計多端”的媽媽陪著我練球,又有一些像吳一鳴這樣的好朋友伴著我打球,才更讓我愛上了打乒乓球的滋味,我真想向全世界唱出我的心聲:“乒乓球,我愛你,就像老鼠愛大米”,你把我的課余時間,點綴得豐富多彩,我愛你,乒乓球!
第10篇 關(guān)于愛情的演講稿
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大家好:
今天我想和大家探討一個老生常談的問題——大學生的婚戀觀。據(jù)父輩們講述,大概二十年前,校園里談戀愛的現(xiàn)象還很鮮見,當時大學生談戀愛都是非常的隱蔽的。而現(xiàn)在,談戀愛已經(jīng)是大學生活中的一個組成部分,與之相伴隨的,當代大學生的婚戀觀也越來越趨于開放。
大學校園是社會生活的一個縮影,它不可能脫離社會大環(huán)境而孤立存在。這就導(dǎo)致了大學生對戀愛問題的態(tài)度更多地受到社會文化的影響,像溫馨浪漫的電影大片,情人節(jié)等各種節(jié)日,偶像劇的經(jīng)典情節(jié)以及網(wǎng)上沸沸揚揚的感情話題等等,都使年輕人的心隨之跳動。雖然我們軍校是一個相對封閉的環(huán)境,但我們的學員也并不例外。
愛情和婚戀是大學階段比較現(xiàn)實而又普遍的問題,當代大學生在愛情婚戀觀上,越來越多的采取了比較開放、自我、隨意的態(tài)度,呈現(xiàn)出婚戀觀的價值多元化和戀愛關(guān)系形式的多樣化。但由于自身道德理性的不成熟,主體角色的不明確以及客觀上社會環(huán)境的影響,以至于在他們身上表現(xiàn)出了種.種矛盾。
就我個人觀點,大學生戀愛大致可以分為以下幾種:
1、金錢至上型
所謂金錢至上型,就是指談戀愛的雙方看重的是對方的金錢儲備。而把才識、學歷等等放在其次。
這樣的例子在生活中并不少見,我一個同學所在學校有一個女同學,一開始遇到一個男生給她的第一感覺挺好,這位男生是系里的骨干,各方面表現(xiàn)都比較優(yōu)秀,兩人算是比較投緣,于是就戀愛了。但后來這個女同學從周圍同學那邊了解到,這個男生是來自農(nóng)村,家貧無業(yè)。這個女同學就有點看不上人家,就決定與那個男生分手了。
現(xiàn)實中有許多戀人因為受社會的影響,養(yǎng)成了固有的愛慕虛榮的心理,所以對于感情是比較現(xiàn)實而顯得有點游移的。
2、單純簡單型
而單純簡單型指的是戀愛雙方最看重的是自己與對方時刻擁有的那份真心實意,考慮的是一種感覺,至于其它方面則考慮得很少。
這里也可以舉個例子:是關(guān)于我聽說的一個別的海軍院校的一個男孩子的愛情故事,他與一位女孩從大二到大四,戀愛了三年,感情一直是比較純的,也沒有向上面說的金錢至上的問題,可以說是在于一切功利名義之外的,所以四年來感情也未曾有過裂縫??上Ш镁安婚L,畢業(yè)后面臨著分配問題,各種因素導(dǎo)致雙方不得不各奔東西。
像這樣的戀人,雖然他們的感情生活很美滿,但是卻經(jīng)受不起現(xiàn)實的考驗。所以說,像這樣單純簡單型的戀愛方式在現(xiàn)實面前也是不堪一擊的。3、游戲型
這種戀愛方式也是現(xiàn)在大學生戀愛的一種特色。就是戀愛雙方彼此都抱著玩玩而已的態(tài)度,他們的感情一般是比較輕浮的,都是彼此從對方那邊找到一種填補空缺的方式。某個地方大學的一位女生,她在老家有一個男友,已經(jīng)談了六七年了,但一到了大學,她又耐不住寂寞,于是又偷偷與好幾個男生談起戀愛來。
這也是一個普遍的問題。現(xiàn)在有的大學生的戀愛動機往往不是出于追求愛情本身,而是為了追求刺激,或者是為了那些書上說的、電影里描述的感覺,可以說這些都是極端不付責任的,而這也是不正確的戀愛觀。
4、金錢和愛情兩不誤型
這一類型,我想是大多數(shù)人所孜孜于求的,它既有浪漫的愛情又有現(xiàn)實的經(jīng)濟條件作鋪墊,兩全其美。所以它也是令人羨慕的類型。
說到令人羨慕的確一點不假,在校園中一度令人津津樂道的“完美情人”即是一個很好的例子,之所以稱之為完美也就是我們剛才說到的兩者兼務(wù)備了。有這樣一對戀人,男的是干部子女,家里較為富裕,女的是公司老板的女兒,是個千金小姐,加之他們對對方又是互相體貼照顧,因此畢業(yè)后,兩人一切條件都成熟了,不久就結(jié)婚,生活過得也很美滿。他們的戀愛史也成為校園美談之一。
那么樹立正確的婚戀觀應(yīng)該怎么做,就此問題,我發(fā)表幾點觀點:
1、要擺正自己的思想,不受一些地方上的不良戀愛風氣影響。有些學員認為,戀愛很正常。但現(xiàn)在有的大學生的戀愛動機往往不是出于愛情本身,而是為了彌補內(nèi)心的空虛、孤獨,或是隨大流有從眾心理;也有的是為了展示自己的魅力,便同時和幾位異性同學交往、周旋,甚至和誰都不確定戀愛關(guān)系。應(yīng)當認識到自己作為一名軍校學員,身上擔負的責任。把更多的精力投入到學習中去,而不要為兒女私情牽腸掛肚。
2、多和周圍的人交流。根據(jù)我的觀察發(fā)現(xiàn),一般學員在遇到問題的時候不喜歡跟別人交流。特別是當遇到情感所產(chǎn)生的問題時,將近一半的學生會找以前的同學或者密友訴苦,而找周圍的同志或是找心里輔導(dǎo)交流的幾乎沒有。在更多數(shù)情況下,學員們還是選擇自己處理,不向任何人求助。日子一久,心里就憋出毛病了。
平時多和周圍的人交流,不要把自己局限在自己以前的小圈子里,遇到感情問題和同志們一起談?wù)勑?,這樣既可以一起解決問題,又可以拉近彼此之間的距離。遇到大家都沒辦法的,還可以找找隊干部,相信隊干部們也會很樂意為大家解決這些問題的。
3、 控制情緒、放開視野、利用愛情的強大動力、和戀人互相幫助、共同提高。通過加強自我修養(yǎng)、不斷進行自我完善,減少情緒的波動性。
最后我想說:
愛情是人類最高尚的情感,之所以高尚,是因為愛情不只是為了滿足基本的生理需要,還有更高的心理需要和社會需要。
愛情是美感、道德感、理智感的完美統(tǒng)一,是人類歌頌的永恒的主題。只有真正了解愛情的真諦,善于在熱戀時保持心理平衡的人,才會有甜蜜的愛情生活,不然的話,嘗到的只會是愛情的苦果。